Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck Reveal Real Reason Behind 2003 Breakup

Don't be fooled by the rock Jennifer Lopez has got on now.

After all, her wedding ring from husband Ben Affleck symbolizes a much deeper story. As the "Jenny from the Block" singer explained, she experienced years of heartache before rekindling her romance with the Oscar winner, who she was engaged to during the early aughts before their 2003 breakup.

So, what went wrong in their relationship the first time?

"Ben and I, we broke up three days before our wedding," J.Lo recalled in her new documentary The Greatest Love Story Never Told. "We had a big wedding planned—14 ushers and bridesmaids—and three days before, we just crumbled under the pressure."

Ben echoed the sentiment, sharing in the Amazon Prime doc that the reason behind the split was "the massive amount of scrutiny around our private life."

However, the couple agreed that calling off their first wedding led them each on a self-discovery journey, one that eventually helped them cross paths again when they reconciled in 2021. They tied the knot at a Las Vegas ceremony in July 2022, before saying "I do" at a massive wedding in Georgia the following month.

"For all those years, it was really hard because I didn't just feel like I lost the love of my life, I felt like I lost the best friend that I ever had," Jennifer remembered of their time apart. "And I couldn't talk for so many years, and that was the hardest part."

Admitting that she was "angry" at Ben for a while, the Grammy winner continued, "But that heartbreak set both of us on a course to figuring ourselves out to being better people."

 

Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez

During that period, Jennifer gave birth to her 16-year-old twins Max and Emme, who she shares with ex-husband Marc Anthony. Meanwhile, Ben welcomed kids Violet, 18, Seraphina, 15, and Samuel, 11, with ex-wife Jennifer Garner.

For J.Lo, she found peace after forgiving both Ben and herself for their past issues.

"I feel like I came out the other side," she said in the documentary. "I've made it through. I've made something good of my life. I'm proud of that."

For a closer look at the Bennifer love story, keep reading.

Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez, Romance Rewind, December 2001

December 2001: Filming Gigli

The two prepare to film a scene for the movie in West Hollywood. The couple met on the set of the film.

Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez, Romance Rewind, October 2002

October 2002: Spotted in Beverly Hills

The two are spotted in the city.

Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez, January, 2003

November 2002: Filming Gigli and Engagement

The two film the movie on Will Rogers State Beach in Los Angeles. That month, the actor proposes to the actress with a 6.1-carat pink diamond ring.

Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez, Romance Rewind, November 2002

November 2002: Filming Jersey Girl

The two film the movie in New York City.

Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez, Romance Rewind, November 2002

November 2002: Leaving MTV's TRL

Is there anything more '00s than both Bennifer 1.0 and TRL?

Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez, December, 2002

December 2002: Red Carpet Debut

The two make their red carpet debut as a couple at the premiere of her film Maid in Manhattan.

Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez, January, 2003

January 2003: Sundance

The two bundle up at the Sundance Film Festival in Utah.

Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez, 2003 Daredevil Premiere

February 2003: Daredevil Premiere

The two appear at the premiere of Daredevil, starring Ben as the superhero.

Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez, February, 2003

February 2003: Daredevil Premiere

The two appear at the premiere of Daredevil, starring Ben and future ex-wife Jennifer Garner.

Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez, March, 2003

March 2003: Oscars

The two attend the Academy Awards together.

Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez, Romance Rewind, May 2003

May 2003: Basketball Game

The two sit courtside at a Los Angeles Lakers game.

Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez

July 2003: Canada Trip

The two film a Dateline interview for NBC in Vancouver.

Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez

July 2003: Gigli Premiere

The two appear at the premiere for their movie in Westwood, Calif.

Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez, Gigli

August 2003: Gigli Is Released

…it flops at the box office.

Jennifer Lopez, Ben Affleck, Hollywood Film Awards

September 2003: Wedding Is Off

The two postpone their wedding. No future date is given.

Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez, October, 2003

October 2003: Baseball Date

The two are seen at a Boston Red Sox game. The team is Ben's favorite.

Jennifer Lopez, Ben Affleck, 2003

January 2004: It's Over

The two end their engagement.

Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez, 2021 Venice Film Festival

September 2021: Red Carpet Royalty

They're baaaack. On Sept. 10, the couple makes their first red carpet appearance in 18 years at the Venice Film Festival premiere of The Last Duel

Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez, 2021 Venice Film Festival

September 2021: Look of Love

There's no denying J.Lo makes for a stunning plus-one! 

Jennifer Lopez, Ben Affleck, Global Citizen Live

September 2021: Back to the Stage

Ben supports J.Lo at the 2021 Global Citizen Live event in New York City, where she performed onstage. It marked her first music gig since she performed at VAX LIVE in May, where the actor also appeared onstage separately, fueling rumors of a rekindled romance.

Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez, 2021 Met Gala, Couples

September 2021: Met Gala Debut

The two attend the Met Gala together for the first time.

Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez, The Last Duel premiere

October 2021: PDA at Premiere

Jen and Ben put on a sizzling display on the red carpet at the premiere of his film The Last Duel in New York City.

Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez

April 2022: Engaged Again!

Jennifer confirmed her engagement to the Gone Girl actor with a video posted to her On The JLo site, revealing a glimpse of her beautiful engagement ring with a green stone.

Jennifer Lopez, Ben Affleck, wedding

July 2022: Married!

On July 16, Jennifer and Ben tied the knot in a surprise ceremony at A Little White Wedding Chapel in Las Vegas.

Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez, Paris

July 2022: Post-Wedding Trip to Paris

The two vacation with her twins and two of his kids in the French capital soon after their wedding.

Jennifer Lopez, Ben Affleck, The Flash Premiere, 2023

June 2023: Red Carpet Fabulous

J.Lo steps out with Ben in support of his movie The Flash.

Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez

February 2024: This Is Them…Now

Jennifer release This Is Me… Now, an album about her relationship with Ben. The record is accompanied by a musical film titled This Is Me… Now: A Love Story and the documentary The Greatest Love Story Never Told.

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